Wednesday, March 27, 2013

To know or not to know?

Today we head to the fetal morphology ultrasound, where the baby is checked from top to toe, to make sure they are healthy. In Australia, this is also when you have the option of finding out the baby's sex. I don't want to know, I think the surprise at birth is absolutely awesome. Rodge on the other hand is itching to find out. He has taken the day off work, he is so keen. We've come to a compromise – he can find out, on the provision that he must not let the secret slip to me. Dangerous? Maybe ...

Did you / would you find out the sex of your baby before birth? Could you handle your partner knowing when you do not?

photo taken in Oscar's space in our old apartment 2011

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  1. Oh I'm like you Im, I think the surprise is marvellous! I don't plan on finding out for our future babes either, but I understand how people would love to know! Either way, I'm certain you will enjoy seeing that sweet little one wriggling around inutero!

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  2. I was different with both. with my eldest I def didn't want to know...and your right, the excitement of not knowing was wonderful...but then with Frankie I just had to know...couldn't wait to find out. knowing was wonderful in its own ways...we chose a name and seemed to get to know her...the down side was only that we shopped like crazy once we knew who we were buying for....geez good luck hubby in keeping that secret!! no pressure! have fun today....seeing bub on that screen never gets boring. x

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    1. Me too! But the other way around, we found out with Oscar (my oldest) and not with Nora. So far he's been really good, I think it'll be harder for me not to bug him to tell me.

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  3. I am 22 weeks and we just found out the sex of our baby (our 3rd). We have found out for all 3. I really didn't want to know this time. We already have 2 boys, and I was feeling alot of pressure already from people, "I bet you're hoping for a girl" etc. But truthfully I really didn't mind. Another boy is great, we know what we are doing with boys, we have everything we need etc. A girl, that would be wonderful too, of course, a change of colour and toys ;) In the end my Husband was adamant to find out, and seeing as I wasn't bothered either way, we found out we are having a little boy! I've never felt unexcited on my birthing days, I kind of liken it to having a penfriend for nine months, you've gotton to know each other, but you've never seen what each other look like, It always feels like meeting a long time friend. And I do like to be organised with names, having them decided on before the baby arrives, makes me feel like I have a bit of control over the day!.....

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    1. That's a good way of thinking about it, the pen friend analogy. We found out with our son. Finding out the sex of course does not really reveal any of the idiosyncrasies of their personalities. Or what they look like. And it certainly makes it easier with the naming – I find boys names so difficult, I have no idea what I'll choose.

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  4. I'm getting that scan done next month and both Stu and I have decided we will wait to find out. I think it's nice to have a surprise at birth.

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  5. I am like a kid in an ice cream shop with surprises-- I have found out with each child because I simply couldn't handle the anticipation....oooh- how exciting all of the surprises that await with a new member of the family, I get giddy even thinking about it!

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    1. I get a little giddy too! And totally nervous, how do you cope with three children? I tell myself I'm not the first...

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  6. We found out with our son, then named him too! I could not wait! :)

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    1. Lol. Cute, I known a few couples that refer to their baby in utero by his/her name. I always find that amazing.

      I found out with my son, but didn't name him until three days after he was born! I didn't find out with my daughter and named her immediately.

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  7. We found out with our first born, but not our second. Both ways were wonderful! It was lovely to be able to bond with Cohen before he was born. We named him early too. But it was also amazing to be full of anticipation and be told by my husband "You've got your girl, baby" when Emerson was born. I immediately burst in to tears. I think I would have cried tears of joy either way. But I had had a feeling it was going to be a girl. :)

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    1. It's funny how you get the idea of the sex before they're born. I was so certain Nora was a boy that I didn't even have that anticipation. She had the cord between her legs and then was wrapped in a towel and handed to me and no one even thought of checking until a couple of minutes later. I was absolutely flabbergasted when Rodge thought to look and told me we had a daughter. But it was beautiful. As you say, you know you'd be happy either way.

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  8. Hi Imogen, just letting you know that I'm currently hosting a new Fitskin giveaway, open to Australian residents only and I hope you will enter! http://www.underlockandkeyblog.com/2013/03/fitskin-naturally-review-and-giveaway.htm

    Happy Easter!

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