Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Grandma and Abuela = Mémé and Yaya

Mémé, Oscar and Nora (in the pram). Taken back before the jacaranda started blooming.

Oscar was the first grandchild for both sides of the family. Before he was born, much discussion ensued not just around his name, but also around what he would call his grandparents. My mum was adamant that she would like to be Grandma, not Nana. Rodge's mum would go teary at the thought of being called Abuela (spanish for Grandma).

Oscar had other ideas. Abuela has become Yaya. Grandma has become Mémé (pronounced meh-meh, but I prefer to pretend we're posh and use accents).

As a person that grew up calling both her grandmas by their first names, I have found watching these developments fascinating.

What do your children call their grandparents? Or maybe you had a special name for your own grandmas?

ps My dad wanted to be called Gramps (aka grumpy Gramps), but Osc seems to believe his name is Toes.

pps I posted a beautiful picutre of Oscar and his Yaya way back here.

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  1. What a collection of names! Lol... And I bet both parties are very happy to be called their special names :)

    Sophie xo

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  2. it was nan and pop for us and the same for my children now. i love that your oscar has these names for his grandparents. family culture is very special. my best friend is irish and to this day she still calls her mum and dad by first names. it took a while for me to get used to but completely normal for them. xo

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    1. Oscar calls me Imi and Rodge, Rodge when he's being cheeky. We always answer, "You call me mum/papa". He's only just two!

      I have a pop as well – great name for a grandfather, so easy to say and fun.

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  3. I wrote a post very similar to this a few months ago - we have the exact same issue in our family with both sets of parents becoming grandparents for the first time - http://fields-of-sage.blogspot.com.au/2012/06/abuelita.html "Toes"! how adorable! x

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    1. Abuelita is an awesome grandma name. Did it stick or has Sage decided on another name?

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  4. That is so sweet! both my grandparents are Grandad/Grandma followed by their name (although in the case of Jocelyn, it was shortened to Jo-jo) .. A cousin calls my grandad Gramps and when my great grandad was alive he was differentiated by being called Grandpa.. Both my grandmothers expressed their dislike for "nana". My best friends family the maternal grandparents are Nana and Ernie to everyone.. even though "Ernie" isn't his actual name.. I also have a friend who calls her parents by their first name - it was a little confusing at first but now totally normal.

    It's so interesting! I think that when I'm a mum I would like my children to call me by my name ... but I'm not sure. x

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    1. I mentioned the first name idea once to Rodge, he was horrified. He believes its an honour to be a Papa and gets upset when Oscar calls him anything else! I didn't really mind either way, mama, then mum just occurred organically.

      Funny how your grandparents disliked 'nana', just like my mum. My maternal grandmother was Manna, (I never met her), I imagine if you ever have grandchildren, being the wonderful cook that you are, Manna would be a fitting grandma name for you. (Please excuse me choosing this so early!)

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  5. I can really relate. My son (the first grandchild in the family) was also greeted with much joy, fuss and anticipation - funny though, the Grandfathers were just as as fussy as the grandmothers when it came to their prospective titles. My mother-in-law (who has since passed on & is sorely, dearly, passionately loved and missed ♥) was the most relaxed... "whatever he finds easiest to say" and as a result she was bestowed the longest title "Aunty Grandma Sylvia" (we thought it was so cute we didn't correct him) then there was Mum (eyes rolling a little here) she insisted on "Nonny" and when he stuck with "Ninny lady" she finally gave in and learnt to love it. My father wanted Grandpa (too many old American Westerns methinks) and my Father -in-law asked for "Grandman" .... it would seem a title does carry some weight hey? I have to say I love that word "Abuela"... what a grounded and matriarchal tone it has. I think I've found my future choice.
    xxx

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    1. Wow, what a wonderful selection! I love them all – Aunty Grandma Sylvia, Ninny lady, Grandman. Absolutely adorable! And far more sophisticated than Yaya and Mémé.

      Abuela is a wonderful grandma name. When the opportunity arises, then go for it!

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  6. we have a nanny and pa, a grammy and poppy, an "old nanny" and an "old poppy"..(great grandparents)...and a "fishin nanna" and a "fishin pop"...(other great grands - who take the kids "fishin" ).....my little gal whos 2 1/2 gets mixed up a lot and mostly calls them all lady and man.....for the record none of the grands got their names of choice...but once those names were uttered from those beautiful mouths...all was forgiven!
    Allison x

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    1. Cuteness. I love that your daughter mostly calls them lady and man! Lucky girl, so many grandparents.

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  7. When my 1st was born ,I spent a lot of time at my mom's .. so you could only tell a very small distinction between "mama" and "ama" (for Grandma). It was so wonderful that she was so close to her so early. Then when she began to speak more, She would say "Damn-ma" throwing me and my mom into the giggles. I even asked her once, what letter does Grandma start with? and she replied very matter-of-factly "a 'D'".
    She has long since outgrown both of these and she is simply "Grandma" My mother-in-law passed away 6 years ago so we just have "Grandma's house" (my mom and Dad's) and "Grandpa's house" (my father-in-laws)-- he is also referred to as "the Grandpa without the grandma" (which hurts my heart every time I hear it)...but reminds me to share memories of her.
    BTW, the picture of your mom and son is fantastic-- what a great capture of a moment-- I would enlarge that as big as a wall! Such precious joy in both.

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    1. Lol! I suppose it is lucky she grew out of Damn-ma!

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  8. Love it! Cohen can't pronounce Grandpa and so he calls Dave's father "Pow-wah." It's so cute. :)

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  9. Bella calls our dads Tata & our mothers abuelita hopefully Gabby does the same.

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  10. My dad has always been Phil to me and so he is to Poe and Ilo, my mum, her name is Pushpa is called Peepa by the kids, I love how they have created what they love. Scott's parents are Gran and Pa, they already had quite a few grandchildren before ours. xx

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  11. Aw, that is soooo adorable! I love Oscar's creation: Meme and Yaya

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